From Chaos to Clarity to Courage: How I Reclaimed My Life and How You Can Too

I opened my eyes and realized I had been living my life by a script that wasn’t mine.

I’ll never forget the morning of August 7, 2020.

It wasn’t dramatic or loud. It was quiet — painfully honest. I opened my eyes and realized I had been living my life by a script that wasn’t mine. I had taken the next logical step for years: get sober, go back to school, raise my daughter in church, get the degree, take the job, accept the promotions. I had done all the “right” things. I had been the strong one. The good girl.

But I was exhausted. Not just tired — soul tired.

Because somewhere along the way, I had lost myself.

Behind the accomplishments and survival was a woman with desires she’d buried. Dreams she had quietly silenced. A voice she’d forgotten.

And that’s when it hit me:

It was time to get clear. It was time to get free.

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Step 1: Acknowledge the Chaos Without Shame

Chaos can look like burnout, overcommitment, emotional numbness, addiction, or just feeling lost. Mine was wrapped in wine bottles, busyness, and people-pleasing. For you, it might look different — but the impact is the same: you feel disconnected from who you really are.

First, give yourself permission to pause.

Get honest without judgment.

Ask: What areas of my life feel chaotic or misaligned right now?

You can’t heal what you won’t name.

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Step 2: Get Clear on What You Truly Want

Clarity is powerful — but it’s also uncomfortable.

Because once you know the truth, you can’t un-know it.

On my journey, clarity looked like this:

Admitting I didn’t want to just survive — I wanted to thrive.

Realizing I had been making decisions based on fear — not purpose.

Understanding that doing “all the right things” still felt wrong when it wasn’t my path.

Ask yourself:

What have I been tolerating that no longer serves me?

What do I really want — not what’s expected of me?

What would I pursue if I wasn’t afraid?

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Step 3: Face the Fears That Keep You Stuck

Clarity will shine a light on your courage killers:

Fear of failure

Fear of disappointing others

Fear of the unknown

Those fears kept me small for years. But here's what I’ve learned:

Courage isn’t the absence of fear — it’s the decision to move forward anyway.

Start small. Courage might be saying “no” when you used to say “yes.”

It might be booking the call, speaking up, or simply resting when the world tells you to hustle.

You don’t need a massive leap — just a faithful step.

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Step 4: Build a Bridge of Aligned Action

Once you’re clear, it’s time to move — not in panic or perfectionism, but in alignment.

Ask yourself:

What is one small action I can take this week that honors my truth?

Who can support me as I take this step?

In my case, I put down the bottle, sought help, and began rebuilding a life from the inside out. That first step changed everything.

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Step 5: Own Your Courage and Keep Moving Forward

You will have days where doubt creeps in — that’s normal. But when you’ve walked through chaos and found clarity, you know too much to go back.

Courage becomes a daily choice — not a one-time event.

A choice to believe in yourself. To bet on your calling. To keep moving, even when it’s messy.

Your courage is already inside you.

Your Journey Starts Now

I now help women walk this same path — from chaos to clarity to courage.

Because I know what it feels like to build a life that looks good on the outside but feels hollow on the inside.

And I know the freedom waiting on the other side of courage.

If you’re ready to stop surviving and start truly living, I’d be honored to walk with you.

Schedule your free clarity call today.

You don’t have to do this alone — and you don’t have to keep waiting.

Your courage is already inside you.

Let’s find it together.